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8 Tips to Have a Good Visit With Your Loved One Living with Dementia

by Randi Cohen

May 10, 2024

Visiting a loved one in memory care apartments can be a deeply rewarding experience, both for you and your family member. With Quail Park of Visalia, we understand the significance of these visits and strive to create a warm, welcoming environment for all. Here are eight tips to ensure your visit is enjoyable and meaningful.

 

1. Plan Ahead

Before your visit, check with the community about the best times to visit. Quail Park of Visalia’s staff can guide you on the most suitable times when your loved one is likely to be most alert and engaged. Knowing the daily routine can help you plan a visit that aligns with their best moments. It’s also beneficial to confirm any community events or activities that might enhance your visit, such as a music session or a gardening activity.

Planning ahead allows you to prepare emotionally as well. Visiting someone with dementia can be unpredictable, so setting realistic expectations helps you stay flexible and responsive to your loved one’s needs. We can provide insights into your loved one’s current state, helping you approach the visit with understanding and empathy.

 

2. Create a Calm Environment

Dementia can make the world feel overwhelming. When visiting your loved one, choose a quiet and familiar setting within the community. Quail Park of Visalia’s memory care apartments offer serene and comfortable spaces perfect for creating a peaceful visiting experience. Avoid high-traffic areas and instead opt for a cozy corner where you can sit close and have a more intimate interaction.

The ambiance plays a significant role in the quality of your visit. Soft lighting, minimal noise, and comfortable seating can make your loved one feel more at ease. Quail Park ensures that their memory care apartments are designed to reduce anxiety and confusion, fostering a sense of safety and calm for their residents.

 

3. Bring Familiar Items

Bringing along photos, favorite music, or cherished items can help spark recognition and conversation. These personal touches can create a bridge to the past, providing comfort and joy to your loved one. Consider creating a memory box with items that have personal significance, such as old letters, a favorite book, or a piece of jewelry.

Engaging with these items can stimulate your loved one’s memory and provide a comforting sense of continuity and identity. We encourage families to personalize their loved one’s living space with familiar items, creating a home-like environment that fosters a sense of belonging and emotional well-being.

 

4. Engage in Simple Activities

Activities like puzzles, knitting, or looking through photo albums can be both soothing and stimulating. At Quail Park of Visalia, our iN2L™ programming offers engaging content that can also be a great resource for creating connections during your visit. Simple activities help maintain cognitive function and provide a sense of accomplishment.

Consider participating in community activities designed for residents with dementia. Programs like Eldergrow offer horticulture therapy, allowing your loved one to engage in tactile gardening activities that are both therapeutic and enjoyable. These shared experiences can create positive memories and reinforce your bond.

5. Be Patient and Present

Patience is key when interacting with someone living with dementia. Allow them time to process information and respond. Being present and attentive shows your loved one that you care and value your time together. Avoid rushing the conversation or becoming frustrated if they struggle to find words or recall details.

Active listening is crucial. Pay attention to both verbal and non-verbal cues, responding with empathy and understanding. Our caregivers are trained to provide comfort and personal care, emphasizing the importance of patience and presence in all interactions with residents.

 

6. Communicate Clearly and Gently

Speak slowly and clearly, using simple sentences. Maintain eye contact and use a warm, friendly tone. Non-verbal communication, such as holding hands or offering a gentle touch, can also convey your love and support. Repeating key points and using familiar names can help your loved one follow the conversation.

It’s important to approach each conversation with a positive and reassuring attitude. Avoid correcting or arguing with your loved one if they become confused or misremember events. Instead, gently steer the conversation towards positive topics and shared memories. Quail Park of Visalia’s helpful staff is always available to offer tips and support on effective communication strategies.

 

7. Focus on Positive Emotions

Rather than correcting or challenging your loved one’s memories, focus on the emotions behind their words. Celebrate the moments of joy and connection. Our Tribute program emphasizes honoring residents’ lives and nurturing their strengths and relationships, making these positive experiences even more enriching.

Emotional validation is more important than factual accuracy. Acknowledge your loved one’s feelings and respond with empathy. This approach fosters trust and emotional closeness. The Tribute program at Quail Park of Visalia is designed to create meaningful moments that celebrate residents’ lives, reinforcing their sense of worth and dignity.

 

8. Take Care of Yourself

Caring for someone with dementia can be emotionally taxing. Make sure you also take care of your own needs and seek support when necessary. Our dedicated team is here to support both residents and their families, providing a compassionate and understanding environment. Joining a support group or talking to a counselor can provide emotional relief and valuable coping strategies.

Self-care enables you to be more present and effective during your visits. Prioritize activities that recharge you, such as exercise, hobbies, or spending time with friends. Remember that by taking care of yourself, you are better equipped to care for and support your loved one.

 

Explore Our Memory Care Apartments

We believe in creating meaningful moments for our residents at Quail Park. Our memory care apartments are designed to offer a personalized, home-like environment where your loved one can thrive. Our professional team is trained to serve and guide residents experiencing Alzheimer’s or other forms of dementia, using programs like Mindful Nourishment and Eldergrow to create enriching experiences.

If you would like to learn more about Quail Park of Visalia and our senior living services, including memory care, please contact us for more information. Visalia offers many helpful services for our residents, ensuring they receive the best possible care. We invite you to schedule a tour of our community and see firsthand the excellent care and support we provide.